Mindful self-compassion and coaching online

You’ll learn how to change the way you relate to your story by building kinder habits, steadying your nerves, and marking life’s big moments with meaning - calmly and clearly

Celebrant form weddings and funerals in and around Essex

You’ll have the celebration that works for you, whether it’s your wedding, or celebrating the life of someone as you say goodbye when they have died

Trusted & trained with

  • Association of Independent Celebrants Logo
  • Center for mindful self compassion logo
  • Mindfulness in schools project logo
  • The ManKind Project UK & Ireland Logo

What you’ll learn to do

  • Notice and name difficult feelings without spiralling.

  • Treat yourself with the warmth you’d offer a friend.

  • Shift from criticism to compassion when things go wrong.

  • Make steadier choices under pressure.

  • Mark life’s milestones with meaning and care.

Why work with Me?

I’m a trained teacher of Mindful Self-Compassion and an experienced celebrant. People tell me my style is calm, kind and direct. I draw on a lifetime of experience — the “elder” energy — and I’m practical: we work with the life you have, not the one you wish you had.

Ways I can help

  • Mindful self-compassion

    Evidence-based tools to soften self-criticism, meet tough feelings, and build resilience you can rely on.

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  • Coaching

    Straightforward support to get unstuck, make clear choices, and move with purpose — at your pace.

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  • Celebrant services

    Weddings and funerals designed with care and calm, so the day feels genuinely yours.

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My Coaching Process

  • Free 20-Minute Call

    Clarify what you need and see if we’re a good fit to work together.

  • First Session

    Receive one practical tool you can use straight away in your life this week.

  • Plan Or Ceremony Design

    We’ll create an ongoing plan or ceremony design shaped around your unique goals and situation.

  • Ongoing Support

    Get support tailored to you — as little or as much as you need, for as long as you need it.

Comments from course participants

  • “I found this course amazing. It came at the right time for me as I had started to think that there was something more than how I was living.”

  • “Thank you John for being so calm, kind, knowledgeable and insightful."

  • “John was a fantastic teacher offering not just the well thought out and delivered lessons but also that extra help individually when things were more difficult.”

Start working with me, today

It all starts with a Free 20-minute call to clarify what you need, and how we’ll move forward together.

No obligation, just conversation.

Frequently Asked Quetions

Still unsure if I’m the right fit? Below are answers to some of your most common questions.

  • No. Coaching and self-compassion training focus on skills for everyday life. If therapy seems a better fit, I’ll say so and point you to options.

  • es. Sessions are via Zoom or in Essex; ceremonies across Essex (and nearby by arrangement).

  • Yes - the first 20-minute call is free and without obligation.

  • Yes. Mindful Self-Compassion is an established, research-supported programme. You can find more info on the Mindful Self-Compassion Course page here.

Ready to talk?

Book a free consultation today and we’ll see what would help most right now.